My wife is irritated with me all the time! Why you need to change this ASAP

Everyone has some little habits that are sure to make the people closest to them go a little crazy. It may be the tapping of your feet that never ends or it may be talking out loud when all you want is peace and quiet. Human differences are part of life and we can accept them or allow them to irritate us incessantly. Usually we can accept that the individual does things differently from us and move on. It is not as simple as that if the person feeling that irritation is your wife and it stems from her behavior. At first, her irritation with you may seem like it’s just a passing phase, but if it’s ongoing and is undermining the very foundation of your marriage, attention is needed now. You have to remedy this before it slips away so much that you start to resent your wife or she becomes so upset about those little irritations that she decides that living with you is no longer working for her.

When a man says to his friends, “My wife is irritated with me all the time,” he is going to get a lot of “I know how you feel” in response. It is common in many marriages for the wife to reach a point where she is upset by some of the habits that her husband has. The important thing to understand is that although it is common and your male friends may compromise with you that all wives never seem to be satisfied, it is much more serious and far-reaching than that.

Although on the surface it may seem that the problem is that your wife is irritated with you all the time, it is much more of a secondary problem in the relationship. Something is happening between you and your wife that is causing her to regret you. It may take your patience that he doesn’t pick up his dirty socks off the floor, but if she scolds him on a daily basis, chances are she is using him as a weapon for an entirely different conflict.

I am a woman and I can tell you without reservation that we are masters at holding a grudge. Typically, a woman can hold on to emotional pain for months, if not years. All the complaints about the things that irritate you can be your wife’s way of dealing with disappointment, frustration, and confusion she feels about something else.

If there has been any conflict between the two of you that has not been fully resolved, that is most likely the source of your wife’s dissatisfaction. The reason she is irritated with you all the time is that she is absorbing the pain of that particular conflict and then releasing it onto you, with all weapons on fire. In fact, she will look for things to complain about in an effort to make you feel even a fraction of the emotional pain that she is.

So what is the best way to handle this so that it doesn’t get so out of control that you are looking at the divorce papers? Talk to your wife. Try to get over the derogatory comments she’s throwing at you and look at the inner good that lives within her. You know it’s there. Try to see your behavior as a simple vehicle for your pain. Explain to your spouse that you want to go back to the loving place they used to be and that you want to help her if she is angry about something you’ve done or said to her. By doing this, you will open the door for her to talk to you about her feelings. You will recognize that you recognize that there is a problem between the two of you that needs careful and compassionate attention.

By being a caring and caring husband even in the face of his endless irritation, you will take your marriage to a healthier place for both of you. Never forget that women and men absorb things differently and handle their emotions in very different ways. By looking past her irritation with you to the root of the problem, you will give your marriage a fighting chance.

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