Dear men (and women who read this to understand and help you):
While it is commonly known that women can have more than one successive orgasm, you are equally capable of experiencing that pleasure. When you continually climax, you can feel feelings of happiness spreading through your body accompanied by waves of tingling, even numbness in your hands, feet, and head. As a multi-orgasmic man, you will enjoy longer lovemaking sessions, better health, and the thrill of bringing more joy and excitement to your partners.
The usual orgasm gives an explosive burst that ends in a few seconds. It is felt mainly on a physical level. Most men are attached to this one-time explosive orgasm, because, thus far, it is all they have ever known. In my 10 years teaching Tantra, I have personally interviewed and witnessed hundreds of men who have learned to go from one-shot orgasm to prolonged expanded multiple orgasm, or continuous climax. These men report a noticeable softening and opening of their heart / emotions and a change in their consciousness.
Recreational drugs and alcohol are popular because they also create altered states of consciousness. With the male multiple orgasm, you can naturally reach these incredible high states and achieve lasting mental, emotional, and physical change. When you prolong your orgasm, you are literally spreading the pleasure of your sexual chakra (energy center around the genital area) throughout your body. The continuous climax spreads your ‘Mojo’ (sexual power) throughout your body, so you get a great dose of nutrition on all levels. As a multi-orgasmic man, you become a “superman.” You tap into your most powerful source of vitality, health, and happiness … your sexual passion.
The most important question I get from new male Tantra students is, “Do I have to hold my ejaculation to have multiple orgasms?” The answer is yes and no. By practicing the techniques outlined below, you can ultimately experience multiple orgasms while continuing to ejaculate. This skill comes with practice and will be explained in a more advanced guide soon. In the beginning, it is best to practice holding your ejaculation, at least until you feel the first orgasmic waves going through your body. Important note: don’t expect multiple male orgasm to feel like the explosive orgasm you’re used to. That kind of orgasm is a one-time deal and cannot be multiplied in succession. Why? Because the male body is intelligently designed to protect itself from excessive sperm loss.
Are you ready to open up to new dimensions of ecstasy?
Here are 5 powerful steps to practice for longer, better sex.
1. Practice slow sex.
Slow down all your movements when making love. You want to be able to come to a complete stop when you feel yourself approaching the point of ejaculation and it helps tremendously if you move slowly and smoothly. Slowing down gives you room to stop before reaching a point of “no return.” If on a scale of 1 to 10, your ‘point of no return’ is an 8, be sure to stop at 7 and just take a deep breath until the moment has passed. You may have to do this several times in several minutes during sex. It’s fine. Remember, practice makes permanent. Let your partner know that you are practicing ejaculation control and agree on a verbal cue that you will say when you are in your 7 so that she can stop moving too. (ie “stop”, “freeze”, “seven”, “timeout”, etc.). Once you master this skill, you can use a combination of fast and slow sex. Make sure to find out what your partner prefers!
2. Keep your breath long and deep.
Pay attention to your breathing. It should be slow, deep and rhythmic at all times, even when you get excited and the movement of the body is accelerating. Imagine you are running a long-distance marathon. In the same way that you adjust to slow, steady breathing when jogging, you must also control the pace in sex with deep inhales and exhales. Watch (and ask your partner to gently point you out) each time you hold your breath and just remind yourself to let go and breathe. The deeper the breath, the better the blood can circulate and dissipate the intensity of your sexual chakra and the urge to explode.
3. Receive a gentle back massage..
Ask your partner to gently stroke your back from the base of your spine to your neck. Your hands should move with constant and constant movements always from the lower part to the upper part of the back. You can apply pressure, as long as it is not on the spine. Light massage helps redistribute the energy from your sexual chakra to your heart. Ask your partner to take a few minutes to massage your back (from the bottom up) before you start making love. In this way, your back is more relaxed and open and ready to channel the energy flow upward. That will be difficult!
4. Do Kegel exercises to strengthen muscle control.
Your PC muscles are the same muscles that you use to stop the flow of urine. To do Kegel exercises, take a deep breath and flex your PC muscles for 10 seconds. Squeeze as hard as you can. Breathe out slowly while relaxing your PC muscles for 10 seconds. Repeat three times. Once you get stronger, do reps without resting between them. Practice when you are urinating. Stop your flow, hold and release as often as possible. By doing Kegel exercises on your cattle outside of the bedroom, you will be better equipped to use your PC muscles effectively to control ejaculation when making love.
5. Make eye contact during sex.
By maintaining eye contact with your partner, you open up to the most sensitive part of you that yearns for soul connection. Allow this side to play a stronger role when you are making love and the energy will shift from your lowest levels of lust to your highest levels of love. When you surrender to the ecstasy of your partner’s eyes and are open enough in your heart to feel this connection, you will no longer give in to instinctual release. You will have the power to choose to continue pleasing your partner, witness them blossom into new states of bliss, and continually climax in your own sacred right.