If you’re new to swinging, you may not be familiar with some of the different terms you’ll come across, such as Soft Swinging or Hard Swinging (also known as Full Swap). Let me help you explain what the difference is so you don’t get caught off guard.
gentle rocking
Most swingers start here and many stay with this type of exchange. Smooth rocking basically means anything goes except penetration with the other partner. The penetration is saved for your own partner.
So what fun can you have without penetration…? A lot!
It’s basically a prolonged foreplay session (Ted and I call it four-way foreplay, but without the guys playing with each other) with lots of kissing, petting, and a ton of oral sex. playing with sex toys okay too, including penetration with sex toys. The only thing prohibited is that one partner penetrates the other partner.
Some people also call staying completely with your own partner Soft Swinging, but that is actually a form of Couples Voyeurism, usually mentioned in Swinger Profiles, as we like to watch and be watched.
Another inaccurate use of the expression Soft Swinging is when it refers to couples where the ladies play exclusively or with very little interaction. This is actually known as “Ladies Only Game”.
In fact, we met a full swinging couple who just wasn’t sure what exactly they could do with a couple who only does light swinging, so we had to show them to them. Now, this couple was thinking about quitting the lifestyle because it didn’t seem like it was for them, until they discovered how much fun the soft swing could be.
Hard Swinging Or Full Swapping
Just as the name implies, this form of swinging includes a full exchange or sexual intercourse with the other partner. Some people never get to this point for reasons of their own, such as illness or intimacy issues, but many quite enjoy the entire exchange.
It wouldn’t be me if I didn’t remind you right now that you should never have sex with another person without a condom, but I’m sure you’re smart enough to know that. It’s just not worth the opportunity.
Both ways of swinging can be done in the same room (so both partners are together) or in separate rooms. Even when you enjoy the threesome experience, you’ll still have to decide if you’re going to swing soft or hard. Everyone MUST agree as well.
Also do yourself a favor and talk about this before things end in the bedroom (or whatever room you’re going to put together). There is nothing more awkward than finding out that the person you are with and trying to put a condom on them is not willing to have sex with you. This conversation is much easier to have in a non-sexual setting.
That’s it, go out and have fun; just make sure both you and your partner are on the same wavelength before picking up a cute pair.
~ Play it safe, Ted and I always do